Text: Juhi Dua
You have met this girl whom you are greatly inclined towards, but she's playing hard to get and you have managed from the cyber world, only her e-mail id. What do you do? Well, for starters, don't call it quits, because in this world of internet, her email address is more than enough to get to her. However, since she is being pricey, you must strategise your every move carefully.
1. Study her online profiles
All of us are members of the online generation so it is unlikely that your girl won't have her professional as well as social profiles online. Go through her profiles in detail and figure if she is single. If she is taken, move on, and if she is single, read on. See in her friends list if you have any common friends that you didn't know about. This common friend could then play the cupid and introduce you. Also, check if you are a member of any common groups, this could serve as a connecting point.
2. Get her interested in you
Identify her blog, drop interesting comments on her posts and even tag your posts wherever necessary. If she has uploaded a photo, take a hint and tag another photo that might interest her, if she loves travelling and has written a travelogue, tag one of yours. And of course, if you run an intriguing blog, leave a lead for her to follow you there. However, don't add her as a friend yet; that will only reflect that you are desperate. In fact, get her so interested that she sends you a friend request.
3. Cash on the common interests
Now that you have already made her feel your presence in the online space, get ready to mail her. Identify a common interest that could work as the binding factor by browsing through social networking sites like Orkut and Facebook. If she likes writing poetry and you are good at penning verses too, write a poem about how much you are pining to see her again and mail it to her. Or if you both are trekking or river rafting enthusiasts, propose an adventure evening revolving around the same. With such a focused email going to her, you are sure to get a response in the least.
4. Never ever send a direct mail asking her out
A direct mail asking her out is completely avoidable, because if she were friendly as to reply to your mail asking her to meet up, why would she play elusive about giving her contact details. Also, by directly mailing her to meet up, you would take her by surprise and make her feel stalked. After all, she didn't give her email id to you. Hence, writing an interesting, focused mail as described above is the only way to do it.
5. Do it now
If you met this girl 2 months ago, but you are writing an email to her now, she may not even remember you. It's best to quickly think up your next step soon after you meet her and mail her accordingly. For all you know, in 2 months this single girl may not remain single anymore.
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Saturday, September 5, 2009
WHEN SHE PLAYS HARD TO GET…
Text: Juhi Dua
It's not only men who enjoy chasing women. Women enjoy being chased too. If the woman you are interested in is definitely single, but is giving you a rather long run almost leaving you feeling hopeless, the first thing you must do is analyse her actions. Here are likely reasons for her mirage like behaviour.
1. She doesn't want to seem too available
If she jumped up and came to you on your first invitation and slept with you soon enough, you are likely to lose interest in her because the challenge would seem over even before it has begun. She understands this universal law and does not want to come across as an easy lay; which is why she will tell you she is not free for a date when all she will do is sulk alone and watch TV.
2. She doesn't trust you yet
Men usually decide to be in a relationship with a woman they fall for rather quickly, though they don't easily get committed to the relationship. To begin with, they don't ponder about "what if I meet someone more apt later?" and "what if she's not really my type?" On the other hand, women get devoted to a relationship completely and find it difficult to snap out of it too easily. Which is why, before a woman gets into a relationship she asks herself too many questions to ensure that this is her Mr. Right indeed. So, give the girl time, win her trust and she will walk into your arms sure enough.
3. She is heightening curiosity and desire
Men love mysterious women and women know that. If your love interest told you all about her friends, her quirks and her favourite hangouts, you will have nothing to wonder about her. So instead, she keeps you guessing by not telling you what she does on weekends. And when she turns you down for a Saturday dinner date and says maybe some other time, it does not mean that she's not interested (or she wouldn't say some other time), it is simply to leave you craving more for her.
4. She wants to test how badly you want her
She wants to see how desperately you want her and how much you are willing to struggle to get her. This will give her an idea of how crazy about her you will remain once you get her. This behaviour of hers stems from the self-realization that she is a prized catch and deserves princess like treatment.
5. You are not her Mr. Right
If a woman has refused to meet you more than twice and has given feeble excuses for the same without the possibility of a future date, she's not playing hard to get; she's simply not interested in you. Forget about her. Love must be waiting for you elsewhere.
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It's not only men who enjoy chasing women. Women enjoy being chased too. If the woman you are interested in is definitely single, but is giving you a rather long run almost leaving you feeling hopeless, the first thing you must do is analyse her actions. Here are likely reasons for her mirage like behaviour.
1. She doesn't want to seem too available
If she jumped up and came to you on your first invitation and slept with you soon enough, you are likely to lose interest in her because the challenge would seem over even before it has begun. She understands this universal law and does not want to come across as an easy lay; which is why she will tell you she is not free for a date when all she will do is sulk alone and watch TV.
2. She doesn't trust you yet
Men usually decide to be in a relationship with a woman they fall for rather quickly, though they don't easily get committed to the relationship. To begin with, they don't ponder about "what if I meet someone more apt later?" and "what if she's not really my type?" On the other hand, women get devoted to a relationship completely and find it difficult to snap out of it too easily. Which is why, before a woman gets into a relationship she asks herself too many questions to ensure that this is her Mr. Right indeed. So, give the girl time, win her trust and she will walk into your arms sure enough.
3. She is heightening curiosity and desire
Men love mysterious women and women know that. If your love interest told you all about her friends, her quirks and her favourite hangouts, you will have nothing to wonder about her. So instead, she keeps you guessing by not telling you what she does on weekends. And when she turns you down for a Saturday dinner date and says maybe some other time, it does not mean that she's not interested (or she wouldn't say some other time), it is simply to leave you craving more for her.
4. She wants to test how badly you want her
She wants to see how desperately you want her and how much you are willing to struggle to get her. This will give her an idea of how crazy about her you will remain once you get her. This behaviour of hers stems from the self-realization that she is a prized catch and deserves princess like treatment.
5. You are not her Mr. Right
If a woman has refused to meet you more than twice and has given feeble excuses for the same without the possibility of a future date, she's not playing hard to get; she's simply not interested in you. Forget about her. Love must be waiting for you elsewhere.
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Saturday, July 25, 2009
GOING ON A DRINKING DATE? BE CAREFUL!
Text: Juhi Dua
The TISS student rape case that recently hit the headlines reminds us yet again of the perils of going on a drinking date with our so called male friends, without our alert mode on. Yes, you can’t completely avoid disasters, but by using your common sense and by taking some precautions, you can avoid date rape to a large extent. Here are some essential precautions you must observe at all times to ensure your own safety.
1. Always drink in limit
Remember that you are drinking to have fun and not to destroy yourself. So, go ahead and consume alcohol if you must, but only as much as you can handle without feeling the need to pass out. A large majority of date rape cases occur when the victim is too drunk, as in a drunken stupor, people are at their weakest and their sense of judgement is greatly blurred. Hence, never drink so much that you are unable to think, protest and protect yourself.
2. Say no to drinking on the first date
If you are meeting a guy for the first time, meet for a coffee or for a meal but give the alcohol a skip. This is because, however nice the guy may seem, you won’t know the demons that hide in his head until they come out. In fact, it’s best not to go drinking for the first few dates till you trust the man enough.
3. Take a girlfriend along
When going out with more than one guy, always ask another girl to accompany you as date rapes are less likely to occur in group date setting. If there are two of you, you can not only control each other’s over drinking but also ensure that both of you reach back home safely in time, without losing clear perception of things.
4. Carry some weapon always
Sounds farfetched, but I say: why not? Protecting yourself is both your duty and your right. So, carry what you must and use it if you must. A pepper spray is a good compact and effective weapon that can easily sit in our handbag always. It can be easily bought online.
5. Stay connected
Your mobile phone can be your biggest saviour, hence always carry it and keep it charged. Before going out, inform a trusted friend and encourage her to keep track of you on phone till you reach home. This way someone will find out if you get into trouble and will be able to make efforts to bail you out. Also, store the helpline numbers on your phone and have numbers of your trusted friends in the city on your fast dial as helpline numbers may not work always.
Apart from all these precautions, if you can arrange for a drive back home with a female companion, it would be great, as 90% of date rapes happen on the way home. At least try to arrange for a trusted female companion while you are being dropped. This will lessen the chances of a date rape by a large margin.
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The TISS student rape case that recently hit the headlines reminds us yet again of the perils of going on a drinking date with our so called male friends, without our alert mode on. Yes, you can’t completely avoid disasters, but by using your common sense and by taking some precautions, you can avoid date rape to a large extent. Here are some essential precautions you must observe at all times to ensure your own safety.
1. Always drink in limit
Remember that you are drinking to have fun and not to destroy yourself. So, go ahead and consume alcohol if you must, but only as much as you can handle without feeling the need to pass out. A large majority of date rape cases occur when the victim is too drunk, as in a drunken stupor, people are at their weakest and their sense of judgement is greatly blurred. Hence, never drink so much that you are unable to think, protest and protect yourself.
2. Say no to drinking on the first date
If you are meeting a guy for the first time, meet for a coffee or for a meal but give the alcohol a skip. This is because, however nice the guy may seem, you won’t know the demons that hide in his head until they come out. In fact, it’s best not to go drinking for the first few dates till you trust the man enough.
3. Take a girlfriend along
When going out with more than one guy, always ask another girl to accompany you as date rapes are less likely to occur in group date setting. If there are two of you, you can not only control each other’s over drinking but also ensure that both of you reach back home safely in time, without losing clear perception of things.
4. Carry some weapon always
Sounds farfetched, but I say: why not? Protecting yourself is both your duty and your right. So, carry what you must and use it if you must. A pepper spray is a good compact and effective weapon that can easily sit in our handbag always. It can be easily bought online.
5. Stay connected
Your mobile phone can be your biggest saviour, hence always carry it and keep it charged. Before going out, inform a trusted friend and encourage her to keep track of you on phone till you reach home. This way someone will find out if you get into trouble and will be able to make efforts to bail you out. Also, store the helpline numbers on your phone and have numbers of your trusted friends in the city on your fast dial as helpline numbers may not work always.
Apart from all these precautions, if you can arrange for a drive back home with a female companion, it would be great, as 90% of date rapes happen on the way home. At least try to arrange for a trusted female companion while you are being dropped. This will lessen the chances of a date rape by a large margin.
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Friday, June 12, 2009
DO BOYS LIKE BAD GIRLS?
Text: Juhi Dua
We girls have always liked bad boys. But with changing lifestyle patterns, pace of life and priorities, a notable percentage of boys too are beginning to reject the conventionally appealing qualities in girls, opting for modern relationships with the ‘bad girls’. And that is definitely good news for all those non-coy, super ambitious, bold and liberated women out there - who are living life on their own terms.
Here are some insights on why men are beginning to dig the bad.
1. Bad girls are impulsive
Good girls are predictable, safe and boring. They always do the right thing. They will not pack their bags and take off to Goa with their boyfriend on an impulse vacation. Nor will they break into a jig at a club or give the man a kiss suddenly just because they felt like it. Bad girls will. They operate on an impulse which usually offers more scope for fun and experimentation with life.
2. They dress hot
Bad girls are bold and liberated in the head, so carrying off hot clothes without looking vulgar and dressing up stylishly to impress men comes naturally to them. Hence, they work as great arm candy for guys who love to show off.
3. They are powerful and independent
Which guy will not like to skip the procedure of dropping you after a hectic night of partying? Well, they know it too, that the new-age bad girl usually is a bold career woman doing well in life and driving her own car. Not just that, she solves her own problems, earns her own money and is responsible and decisive. Considering that most men hate taking day to day decisions and are happier with less responsibility, this is a quality they appreciate well.
4. They don’t try to change the bad boys
This is probably the clincher! Because the bad girls live their life their way, they usually let the men be. In fact, many a times, the habits that a good girl may not like in a man, the bad girl may share the same habit with him. The best part is, bad girls value their own space, individuality and freedom and hence they offer the same to the guy as well.
5. They live in the present
Bad girls don’t sicken over the right and the wrong, the black and the white. They just live to enjoy the moment. They have themselves made mistakes in the past, so they are open to accepting the guy the way he is. They don’t usually force the guy to live by their rules and sensibilities. And hence they are perfect for the new age man who wants to feel free and live the present to the fullest.
So there! If you are a bad girl you know your time has arrived. Go girl, live it...
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We girls have always liked bad boys. But with changing lifestyle patterns, pace of life and priorities, a notable percentage of boys too are beginning to reject the conventionally appealing qualities in girls, opting for modern relationships with the ‘bad girls’. And that is definitely good news for all those non-coy, super ambitious, bold and liberated women out there - who are living life on their own terms.
Here are some insights on why men are beginning to dig the bad.
1. Bad girls are impulsive
Good girls are predictable, safe and boring. They always do the right thing. They will not pack their bags and take off to Goa with their boyfriend on an impulse vacation. Nor will they break into a jig at a club or give the man a kiss suddenly just because they felt like it. Bad girls will. They operate on an impulse which usually offers more scope for fun and experimentation with life.
2. They dress hot
Bad girls are bold and liberated in the head, so carrying off hot clothes without looking vulgar and dressing up stylishly to impress men comes naturally to them. Hence, they work as great arm candy for guys who love to show off.
3. They are powerful and independent
Which guy will not like to skip the procedure of dropping you after a hectic night of partying? Well, they know it too, that the new-age bad girl usually is a bold career woman doing well in life and driving her own car. Not just that, she solves her own problems, earns her own money and is responsible and decisive. Considering that most men hate taking day to day decisions and are happier with less responsibility, this is a quality they appreciate well.
4. They don’t try to change the bad boys
This is probably the clincher! Because the bad girls live their life their way, they usually let the men be. In fact, many a times, the habits that a good girl may not like in a man, the bad girl may share the same habit with him. The best part is, bad girls value their own space, individuality and freedom and hence they offer the same to the guy as well.
5. They live in the present
Bad girls don’t sicken over the right and the wrong, the black and the white. They just live to enjoy the moment. They have themselves made mistakes in the past, so they are open to accepting the guy the way he is. They don’t usually force the guy to live by their rules and sensibilities. And hence they are perfect for the new age man who wants to feel free and live the present to the fullest.
So there! If you are a bad girl you know your time has arrived. Go girl, live it...
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Monday, January 5, 2009
Is he going to stay?
Text: Juhi Dua
Smitten by a guy but don't know if he is as serious about you or will move on as soon as he finds another woman to chase? This is a dilemma that faces all of us at least once in our lives. But, there is a way out of course. Read his behaviour to find out his stand. Here are some surefire signs that indicate he is here for the long haul:
1. He is comfortable with you
When a guy isn't looking at a long term relationship, he will usually project what he's not, not just mentally and emotionally, but also financially. On the other hand, if he wants you for keeps, play acting will stop at some point and the real him will gradually take over. This means, he may not be in the best of clothes and the best of moods all the time, he may not always agree with you and may not do things to please you all the time. Respect this as this just goes to show that he is comfortable with you and wants you forever.
2. He supports and encourages you
If you were a stop gap arrangement, your achievements and struggles would not mean much to him. But, if he supports and encourages you in every important task you undertake, he is clearly getting involved in your life. And this does send a strong signal.
3. He shares his darkest fears with you
Guys hate to be perceived as weak. They will gladly share their achievements or even dreams with you, but never their fears. But, if your guy confesses in you things that may be troubling him or talks about his fears, he has for sure crossed the boundaries of a fickle relationship.
4. He has introduced you to his family
As cliché as this may sound, this is an important step up in a relationship, simply because a guy will not introduce every girl to his parents, but only the one he sees the possibility of a future with. If he has introduced you to his parents as his girl, there is much reason to believe he is serious about you.
5. His future plans feature you
While talking about his future, if your guy mentions you even indirectly, it is a clear indication that he is not going anywhere.
When you know your place in the heart and life of the one you love, the euphoria gets heightened. So, find out for yourself if your man is here for the long haul and enjoy the connection. All the best!
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Smitten by a guy but don't know if he is as serious about you or will move on as soon as he finds another woman to chase? This is a dilemma that faces all of us at least once in our lives. But, there is a way out of course. Read his behaviour to find out his stand. Here are some surefire signs that indicate he is here for the long haul:
1. He is comfortable with you
When a guy isn't looking at a long term relationship, he will usually project what he's not, not just mentally and emotionally, but also financially. On the other hand, if he wants you for keeps, play acting will stop at some point and the real him will gradually take over. This means, he may not be in the best of clothes and the best of moods all the time, he may not always agree with you and may not do things to please you all the time. Respect this as this just goes to show that he is comfortable with you and wants you forever.
2. He supports and encourages you
If you were a stop gap arrangement, your achievements and struggles would not mean much to him. But, if he supports and encourages you in every important task you undertake, he is clearly getting involved in your life. And this does send a strong signal.
3. He shares his darkest fears with you
Guys hate to be perceived as weak. They will gladly share their achievements or even dreams with you, but never their fears. But, if your guy confesses in you things that may be troubling him or talks about his fears, he has for sure crossed the boundaries of a fickle relationship.
4. He has introduced you to his family
As cliché as this may sound, this is an important step up in a relationship, simply because a guy will not introduce every girl to his parents, but only the one he sees the possibility of a future with. If he has introduced you to his parents as his girl, there is much reason to believe he is serious about you.
5. His future plans feature you
While talking about his future, if your guy mentions you even indirectly, it is a clear indication that he is not going anywhere.
When you know your place in the heart and life of the one you love, the euphoria gets heightened. So, find out for yourself if your man is here for the long haul and enjoy the connection. All the best!
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