Text: Juhi Dua
You have met this girl whom you are greatly inclined towards, but she's playing hard to get and you have managed from the cyber world, only her e-mail id. What do you do? Well, for starters, don't call it quits, because in this world of internet, her email address is more than enough to get to her. However, since she is being pricey, you must strategise your every move carefully.
1. Study her online profiles
All of us are members of the online generation so it is unlikely that your girl won't have her professional as well as social profiles online. Go through her profiles in detail and figure if she is single. If she is taken, move on, and if she is single, read on. See in her friends list if you have any common friends that you didn't know about. This common friend could then play the cupid and introduce you. Also, check if you are a member of any common groups, this could serve as a connecting point.
2. Get her interested in you
Identify her blog, drop interesting comments on her posts and even tag your posts wherever necessary. If she has uploaded a photo, take a hint and tag another photo that might interest her, if she loves travelling and has written a travelogue, tag one of yours. And of course, if you run an intriguing blog, leave a lead for her to follow you there. However, don't add her as a friend yet; that will only reflect that you are desperate. In fact, get her so interested that she sends you a friend request.
3. Cash on the common interests
Now that you have already made her feel your presence in the online space, get ready to mail her. Identify a common interest that could work as the binding factor by browsing through social networking sites like Orkut and Facebook. If she likes writing poetry and you are good at penning verses too, write a poem about how much you are pining to see her again and mail it to her. Or if you both are trekking or river rafting enthusiasts, propose an adventure evening revolving around the same. With such a focused email going to her, you are sure to get a response in the least.
4. Never ever send a direct mail asking her out
A direct mail asking her out is completely avoidable, because if she were friendly as to reply to your mail asking her to meet up, why would she play elusive about giving her contact details. Also, by directly mailing her to meet up, you would take her by surprise and make her feel stalked. After all, she didn't give her email id to you. Hence, writing an interesting, focused mail as described above is the only way to do it.
5. Do it now
If you met this girl 2 months ago, but you are writing an email to her now, she may not even remember you. It's best to quickly think up your next step soon after you meet her and mail her accordingly. For all you know, in 2 months this single girl may not remain single anymore.
Published on Tips4me.com
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Saturday, September 5, 2009
WHEN SHE PLAYS HARD TO GET…
Text: Juhi Dua
It's not only men who enjoy chasing women. Women enjoy being chased too. If the woman you are interested in is definitely single, but is giving you a rather long run almost leaving you feeling hopeless, the first thing you must do is analyse her actions. Here are likely reasons for her mirage like behaviour.
1. She doesn't want to seem too available
If she jumped up and came to you on your first invitation and slept with you soon enough, you are likely to lose interest in her because the challenge would seem over even before it has begun. She understands this universal law and does not want to come across as an easy lay; which is why she will tell you she is not free for a date when all she will do is sulk alone and watch TV.
2. She doesn't trust you yet
Men usually decide to be in a relationship with a woman they fall for rather quickly, though they don't easily get committed to the relationship. To begin with, they don't ponder about "what if I meet someone more apt later?" and "what if she's not really my type?" On the other hand, women get devoted to a relationship completely and find it difficult to snap out of it too easily. Which is why, before a woman gets into a relationship she asks herself too many questions to ensure that this is her Mr. Right indeed. So, give the girl time, win her trust and she will walk into your arms sure enough.
3. She is heightening curiosity and desire
Men love mysterious women and women know that. If your love interest told you all about her friends, her quirks and her favourite hangouts, you will have nothing to wonder about her. So instead, she keeps you guessing by not telling you what she does on weekends. And when she turns you down for a Saturday dinner date and says maybe some other time, it does not mean that she's not interested (or she wouldn't say some other time), it is simply to leave you craving more for her.
4. She wants to test how badly you want her
She wants to see how desperately you want her and how much you are willing to struggle to get her. This will give her an idea of how crazy about her you will remain once you get her. This behaviour of hers stems from the self-realization that she is a prized catch and deserves princess like treatment.
5. You are not her Mr. Right
If a woman has refused to meet you more than twice and has given feeble excuses for the same without the possibility of a future date, she's not playing hard to get; she's simply not interested in you. Forget about her. Love must be waiting for you elsewhere.
Published on tips4me.com
http://www.tips4me.com/tips/datingmale/preview_main.asp?tip=wooing_askingherout
It's not only men who enjoy chasing women. Women enjoy being chased too. If the woman you are interested in is definitely single, but is giving you a rather long run almost leaving you feeling hopeless, the first thing you must do is analyse her actions. Here are likely reasons for her mirage like behaviour.
1. She doesn't want to seem too available
If she jumped up and came to you on your first invitation and slept with you soon enough, you are likely to lose interest in her because the challenge would seem over even before it has begun. She understands this universal law and does not want to come across as an easy lay; which is why she will tell you she is not free for a date when all she will do is sulk alone and watch TV.
2. She doesn't trust you yet
Men usually decide to be in a relationship with a woman they fall for rather quickly, though they don't easily get committed to the relationship. To begin with, they don't ponder about "what if I meet someone more apt later?" and "what if she's not really my type?" On the other hand, women get devoted to a relationship completely and find it difficult to snap out of it too easily. Which is why, before a woman gets into a relationship she asks herself too many questions to ensure that this is her Mr. Right indeed. So, give the girl time, win her trust and she will walk into your arms sure enough.
3. She is heightening curiosity and desire
Men love mysterious women and women know that. If your love interest told you all about her friends, her quirks and her favourite hangouts, you will have nothing to wonder about her. So instead, she keeps you guessing by not telling you what she does on weekends. And when she turns you down for a Saturday dinner date and says maybe some other time, it does not mean that she's not interested (or she wouldn't say some other time), it is simply to leave you craving more for her.
4. She wants to test how badly you want her
She wants to see how desperately you want her and how much you are willing to struggle to get her. This will give her an idea of how crazy about her you will remain once you get her. This behaviour of hers stems from the self-realization that she is a prized catch and deserves princess like treatment.
5. You are not her Mr. Right
If a woman has refused to meet you more than twice and has given feeble excuses for the same without the possibility of a future date, she's not playing hard to get; she's simply not interested in you. Forget about her. Love must be waiting for you elsewhere.
Published on tips4me.com
http://www.tips4me.com/tips/datingmale/preview_main.asp?tip=wooing_askingherout
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